How to create a family budget

Even in the best of times, having a family means that in addition to everyone’s health and happiness, financial issues will always be top of mind. In times of high inflation and interest rates, money management is even more important. One of the key strategies to help ensure that your family is financially stable today – and moving towards financial well-being in the future – is creating and sticking to a family budget.

We’ll show you some of the key steps involved in budgeting for the family – steps that can help reduce your financial anxiety and boost your financial confidence. So whether you’re a new couple, planning to have children, or already have kids of any age, take a few minutes to learn about:

1. Setting clear financial goals

2. Tracking your spending

3. Creating a budget

4. Saving and investing

5. Reducing or limiting debt

Why do you need a family or household budget?

Trying to manage your family's finances without a budget is kind of like setting off on a road trip without a GPS or map. You may wind up in a place you don't want to be – in deep debt, without extra money for emergencies, or way behind on saving for a child's college education.

With a family budget in place, you can better allocate your income, know when to take a spending break, create a budget for a vacation or a special purchase, manage and reduce debt, and – importantly – start saving to help your family achieve its future financial goals. But that's not all. Creating and implementing a family budget can actually enhance your family dynamics - by promoting open communication and collaboration among family members as you work together to improve your finances. Most importantly, a budget can help you, your spouse or partner, and the entire family enjoy a positive outlook that comes from financial stability and confidence.

How to create your family budget

It will take some effort to create a family budget, but if you take it one step at a time, it may be easier than you think. Set aside some time to begin when it's convenient for you, your spouse or partner, and your kids – you want them involved in family budgeting if it's appropriate. Start by gathering pay stubs, bank statements, and bills and organizing information about your household income, expenses, savings, debts, and investments. Then grab some paper and a pen – or open your laptop – and follow these steps.

1. Think about your family’s financial goals

The first step to creating your family budget is to make sure that you have a clear, detailed vision of your short- and long-term goals. Knowing what you hope to achieve - and when - will help you to determine how much savings you will need moving forward and how much you should be setting aside each month. This, in turn, will inform many of your other budgeting decisions, including how much discretionary spending you can afford on a regular basis.

Many financial professionals suggest using the SMART formula to set short- and long-term goals. If you adhere to this guideline, you will set Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound goals.

Be specific about what you want to achieve and when. Set goals such as "paying off $1,000 of credit card debt within three months," "investing $10,000 each year for retirement," or "saving a $50,000 home down payment in five years." Make sure that your goals are achievable based on your current financial situation, relevant to your overall life plan and aspirations, and easily measurable. By applying the SMART formula, you can increase your chances of meeting your goals and have a solid foundation on which to build a budget that will work today and tomorrow.

2. Track family expenses and spending

Tracking your family's monthly expenses and spending can help you understand your spending patterns better, take more control over your spending, and, most importantly, create a workable budget. It involves breaking your spending down into four budget categories and then monitoring amounts allocated over the course of a few months. Look at:

• Fixed expenses, such as rent, mortgage, utilities and cable/internet services.

• Variable expenses, including food costs, clothing, and transportation costs.

• Debt repayments, such as credit cards, auto loans, and student loans.

• Discretionary spending, including dining out, gifts, and family vacations.

You can do it the old-fashioned way - with pen and paper – or you can use a traditional spreadsheet or take advantage of one of the many online apps that can help automate much of the process.

No method is perfect, and some apps may fit your needs better than others. But however, you choose to do it, tracking expenses and spending is essential to answering the question of how much you must spend each month and, importantly, where you might be able to trim costs if there is a shortfall between your cash flow and your total expenses.

3. Create a family budget for today and tomorrow

Now that you’ve laid the groundwork, you can begin creating the actual budget. There are many approaches to doing this, but one of the simplest – and most popular is the 50/30/20 budgeting rule:¹

1. Calculate your monthly household income after taxes.

2. Calculate your essential expenses – rent or mortgage, food, transportation, insurance - which should comprise approximately 50% of your after-tax income. If they are more than 50%, try to make some adjustments to your spending habits.

3. Set aside 30% of your after-tax income for discretionary expenses such as dining out, streaming services, gifts, and vacations. If 30% won’t cover them, think about what you can do to cut costs.

4. If possible, allocate at least 20% of your after-tax income towards savings and debt repayment. This includes emergency funds, retirement contributions, loan repayments, and saving for long-term goals such as paying for college or buying a house.

5. Keep records to help you stay within the 50/30/20 percentages.

6. Review your budget regularly and adjust it as necessary, especially if there is a significant change in your income or circumstances.

Build an emergency fund into your budget

In addition to your regular expenses, there is always the possibility that less predictable costs will arise. These might include car repairs, home maintenance, higher-than-normal health care costs or emergency travel. These are the types of expenses that can be covered by emergency savings, which you can build gradually by setting aside a small amount of money each month. Be sure to factor in this outlay when calculating your budget.

Remember, the 50/30/20 plan is a guideline, and you can modify it to suit your specific needs. Or, you can try other budgeting strategies, such as Zero-Based Budgeting - which involves allocating every dollar available to a specific category – or the Pay Yourself First budget, which requires you to allocate a portion of your income to savings and investment before covering expenses.

Whichever approach you choose, the goal is to establish a budget that allows you to maintain your current lifestyle and save towards a stable secure future. The next steps involve building on that foundation to help achieve financial stability and confidence.

4. Manage credit use and reduce debt

Managing your use of credit – especially credit cards - is not only crucial to effectively managing your family finances. It can also be the key to unlocking new opportunities. An established credit history and a decent credit score can make it easier to qualify for loans, mortgages, and credit cards, help you obtain secure favorable interest rates and insurance premiums, and even increase your chances of getting a new job. To build credit and improve your credit score pay bills on time; pay more than the minimum payment; keep credit use as far below your credit limit as possible; maintain a diverse mix of credit accounts; check credit reports for accuracy and address errors promptly.

5. Save and invest

One of the best ways to boost your financial confidence is to save money for the future. Even if you can’t allocate a lot of money to savings, most financial professionals would urge you to start as soon as possible, even if you can only afford to set aside a small fraction of your income each month. Whether you’re saving for a summer vacation, a down payment on a home, or long-term goals such as retirement, consistent, committed saving of even small amounts can yield big benefits over time.

You may also want to consider building an investment portfolio containing potentially higher-yielding vehicles such as stocks, bonds, mutual funds, or exchange-traded funds (ETFs).² But a higher yield means higher risk, so you'll want to take some time to learn the ropes before you begin. If you're not sure how to proceed, consider consulting a financial professional with investment experience.

Try to get the kids involved

If your children are old enough to handle conversations about your family's money, think about including them in monthly family budget meetings. Getting kids involved can be a valuable educational experience that sets them on a path toward financial responsibility, and by including them in the budgeting process, parents can teach them important lessons about money management, saving, and responsible spending.

Engaging kids in these conversations not only helps them develop financial literacy but also instills a sense of responsibility and an understanding of the importance of making informed financial decisions, setting them up for a more financially confident future. If your kids are ready, it’s a win-win.

Guardian can help you and your family

Getting comfortable with family finances and budgeting is one of the first steps in your financial journey. And hopefully, you'll be able to use the tips above to get started on your own. But if you need guidance moving forward – on more difficult issues such as retirement planning or using life insurance to help protect your family's future - Guardian can help. To find a Guardian financial professional near you, just fill in your zip code and click below.

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